I have often thought about what “having it all” means. I look at the 1%ers and I don’t think they are living a life any better than mine. Certainly their material world looks very different from mine. But as I have all that I need to live a life, I don’t think material possessions are indication of whether someone has it all, or not.

They also have access to, and control, a great deal of power. But is that a thing a mentally healthy person would aspire to? When I think about my day to day stresses, health, my own and that of my family, safety of those that I love, living by my own values in a world where my values aren’t mirrored in society, I think would I want the weight of world added to my shoulders? Not if I want to stay healthy, I don’t.

I make enough money to do the things I want to do. I know people who make enough money to do they things they want to do ten times over. I have a great deal of respect for them not because of their financial situation, but because they present themselves as having very similar to values as my own. When we are in conversation, they listen to me as well as I listen to them. Our individual worth is not found in our bank statements. They aren’t any less, or more, happy than I am.

So, if it’s not through money or power, where is the path to having it all? Is it one particular destination, or is it more like a mosaic plateau where each spot is representative of a place in the heart? Is having all confined to one aspect of life at a time? Can you have it all at home, but still be lacking in work life?

Living a full life is something every human does, even if that life is out of balance. Being alive, with a beating heart, is living a full life. It is the value society has placed on how time on earth has been spent that determines worth. A recluse can be just as satisfied with their life path as someone who life is dedicated to interacting with others.

I now face each day with positivity. I haven’t always lead my life in that way. It has taken many years to find the path of light. And the offering of unconditional love. I have never been able to determine if what others have to offer is unconditional love until it isn’t. Until, by their words or deeds, I have found that they have put conditions on who I am to get what it is they have to give me. They have put conditions on their love. But I have learned that my love can’t be dependent on them. My love is mine to give. What that is dependent on is how clearly I see them. If they approach life with authenticity, then what I offer is unconditional. Show me who you really are, and I will give you what I have to give you. Hide from me and you have placed a barrier in front of what I have to give.

So, I think having it all is a willingness to give it all. The things we value.  What’s important. If money is what is important, then you will never have it all because the nature of finance is that it only works when more it spread out among the many. Same goes with prestige. That is measured by how you compare to someone else.

Having it all has to be an ideal that comes from within. I know plenty of people what are just scraping by by society’s standard and they are among the most happy, satified people I know. Their hearts are full and they are aware of the many graces granted to them. I feel I have it all. I have my worries, but they do not detract from my baseline of contentment. And isn’t that the definition of having it all. By feeling as there is nothing more needed?